The way we see the world and understand it amazes me, we have tools that can help us live better experiences.
We can only and for ever be in the ‘now’, we cannot be in the past or future. This ‘now’ is the only fixed point we have. We all measure time in one way or another – clock face or diary entry – it helps our brains calculate what has been, what is now, and what will happen.
We all organise our time upon such lines the past and future possibilities. When asked to think of time in this way we all fall in to two structures. Either we view the world ‘in time’ or ‘through time’.
In the former we view ‘us’ as part of time with the past and future on a line – mostly the past sits in a place behind us out of sight and the future line fades in front. Then we have the second ‘through time’. In this case we see time as an arc, we diss – associate from it, often the left is the past and the right the future. Moments of time displayed like a fan of cards.
It is this latter that I think we need to connect with in order to process our fear and risk assessments’. Let us ignore the former as in essence it is a series of ‘nows’ that may or may not occur. Unlike a ‘now’ this is fixed. In the latter, to phrase Snyder, we see a charging arc of our experiences and possible futures; where possible futures are stacked in our favour. In the arc we see positives and connect with these. Look now in your own timeline, if you wish – that xmas where you got the best toy in the world – the smile – the fun. Feel the colour, hear the noise. It feels so real on the timeline a connected experience although you are outside it, not ‘in it per se’.
Now let us look at this (diss) associated experience with fear and risk. Look at the timeline as images, or movies – remember the time when you ‘did’, when you had success at the point where you felt it impossible. – Visualize it. The passion, the heart, the pulse rate and how you felt. This is the key.
If we visualize our positives on this charging arc that leads out in front of us from left to right, all possibilities arise. The form, they hold, is a truth and unlike the ‘in time’ we can see past – now – future all around, we are apart from it – our fears can be accepted and viewed without our interaction (like watching a movie) we are not involved.
It appears simple for this to occur – we view our timeline ‘out of ourselves’.
It is a practice of timeline therapy and NLP, a journey. How we use this practice is important. When we look at a climbing route – when we look at a hard rapid – when we step out of our zones of comfort can we use what the timeline has shown us. Like an IPAD we can pick and choose from the applications – from the slides of the past – to position us in the future. This future is now. We can use our consciousness from the past, the positives, to function for us- to work with us and assist us. We have managed in stress before so will again. We have managed in fear, for what it is worth as a concept before, so we can again – it’s not unknown to us.
It is the beginning stages of the NLP journey for me, and indeed for many – if you are keen to learn more about NLP, please email us and we will put you in contact with teachers and courses to suit.
For passion and grace.